| A Deeper Exploration into Your
Talents Next, we want to get a
little more specific and descriptive about your talents by building upon the action verbs
you have already selected. It is one thing to know that you love writing, yet it is quite
another thing to know that your passion is writing love poetry. Being specific and clear
about your talents will insure that you will be doing what you love. And that's what we
all want, right? That is why this is no time for being vague about your talents. Most of
us weren't born knowing what our favorite talents were and how we wanted to use them, and
even if we were, we've done a good job of ignoring and burying those dreams and following
more "practical" impulses, because that is what we were taught to do. Most of us
haven't been taught to get really clear about what our talents are and how we want to use
them, and so we end up settling for a job or career that utilizes far less than our full
potential. This isn't your fault. It's just that no one has taught you how to make full
use of your career potential. We know that you are serious about transforming your present
work situation into the career of your dreams (otherwise you wouldn't be reading this), so
we suggest that you take full advantage of the following exercise to get really clear and
specific about the exact talents you want to use. The time you spend getting clear about
what you want will more than pay for itself in the future. After all, what are the chances
of creating your dream job if you don't even know the exact talents you want to use in it?
So, for each verb that you have selected, you
will want to write a clear and descriptive sentence describing your talent and how you
most enjoy using it. For instance, let's say that one of the verbs you chose was
"research." Research, by itself, though it may accurately describe a talent you
have, is very general and lacks any real meat. It is not enough to say that you have a
talent for research, unless you don't care about what kind of research you do. And if you
didn't care about what kind of research you did, you probably wouldn't be too worried
about discovering your dream career because if you want to do what you love, you realize
that you must also get specific about how you want to use your talents.
How can you get more specific and beef up the
action verbs that describe your favorite talents? Well, you can start by asking yourself
some specific questions about how you see yourself using that talent in the ideal way.
Let's use the "research" example to illustrate some examples of the types of
questions you might want to ask yourself:
- What kind of research do I love doing?
- What kind of information do I love to research?
- What subjects do I enjoy researching?
- What methods of research do I love to employ?
- Do I like to research specific events that
occurred or do I prefer researching famous people? Or do I like researching the kinds of
financial and public records found in courthouses? Or would I rather research books on a
particular subject? Or do I enjoy finding cutting edge information found only on the
Internet, etc., etc.?
In other words, ask yourself to get as clear as
you can about how you want to use each talent. After all, if you don't decide, someone
else will. To give you an idea of what a clear descriptive sentence might look like, here
are some "research" talent descriptions you might have written depending on the
way you would like to express your research talent (of course, assuming that research was
one of your favorite talents):
- I love to research the biographies of famous
historical figures by using books at the library, reviewing old newspapers, interviewing
people who knew them, and connecting with other historians on the Internet who have
uncommonly known information. Or . . .
- I love to research the results of the most recent
scientific experiments and findings on the human mind by reading the latest scientific
publications. Or . . .
- I love to research the financial trends of up and
coming companies in the stock market. Or . . .etc., etc., etc.
Can you see how much more valuable these
statements are rather than just vaguely stating "I love to do research"? If you
leave it with just a general statement like "I love to do research," then you
might settle for a job that uses your research skills doing background checks on
prospective employees and find yourself bored, frustrated or unfulfilled. And since that
is not what you want, it pays to be as specific as you can up-front, thereby avoiding the
creation of another dead-end job you can't stand.
Another point to be made is that any one talent
can be used in an almost infinite number of ways. The point here is to be clear about the
ideal way you want to express that talent. For example, others may have the same talent
for, let's say, "communicating" as we do. But we will all have different ways
that we most enjoy using that talent. That is what makes us all unique. Both of us like to
"communicate" by writing informative and useful self-help books on creating the
life of your dreams. Someone else may like to communicate by reporting breaking news on a
nationally televised news station. Another person may most enjoy using his communication
talent to translate English language masterpieces of literature into Spanish. So, you see,
there is a wide, wide range of expressing even the same talent and that is why being clear
and specific about the way you want to express it is a necessary pre-requisite to
achieving your goal of building your dream career.
One final comment here before we turn you loose
on the next exercise. Do not limit yourself by pre-judging that there is no market for
your most favorite talents. There is a temptation inherent in all of us to judge our
future based on our past. If we haven't ever used our favorite talents in the ideal way in
a work situation in the past, then it may be difficult to see how we will be able to do it
in the future. If you've been an accountant all your life and yet you feel your greatest
talent lies in inventing and creating a new kind of fishing lure, then chances are you may
be saying to yourself, "How in the world am I going to be able to support myself with
my passion for making fishing lures?" It may seem very impractical to you now. But
for the sake of your career happiness, do not shortchange yourself now by only listing
those talents that you think are "practical". Do yourself a favor and postpone
judgment on what you can or can't do until you've read all subsequent issues.
One of our firm beliefs as authors of this
article is that for every favorite talent you have, there is a market for it. People are
making money with the "craziest" ideas. Just look around. The next section on
finding your market will help you get clearer about how you can make money with your
favorite talents, so let's take this one step at time. Don't let the issue of money get in
the way just yet. We will address that later on. Besides, no one says you have to quit
your accounting career just yet. You can use your spare time to build what you love until
you are at a place where you can say goodbye to your past career and fully embrace your
new one. No one ever said that you have to make this transformation overnight. One really
good question to ask yourself as you go through this next section is, "If money were
no object, what talents would I want to be using and how would I ideally want to be
expressing them?"
Pause & Ponder
Take out a sheet of paper and enter each of the
talent verbs you selected above. For each verb formulate a descriptive sentence about how
you want to use it. A good overall guiding question to ask yourself as you are formulating
these descriptions is, "How do I see myself using this talent in a way that would be
most fulfilling to me?"
The Power of Touchstone Experiences
A friend of mine related his childhood fear of
the dark and how he imagined all kinds of scary things happening to him in the
middle of the night. He was sure that the boogie man was living under his bed, waiting for
the perfect opportunity when his guard was down to pounce on and devour him. Finally one
night, when he couldn't stand it anymore, he ran into his parents room certain that he had
narrowly escaped swift and sudden destruction. His parents patiently took him back to his
room and searched under the bed for the boogeyman. As he was thinking, "Of course, he
wasn't there. The boogeyman never shows up when parents are looking for him." his
mother, somehow sensing his thoughts, knew that it was going to take more than looking
under his bed to console him. So she tucked him in and sang him a song. After a couple of
minutes of listening to his mom's voice, he stopped being afraid as a sense of comfort
washed over him. She explained to him that if he ever felt afraid again, all he had to do
was remember the song she sang and he would feel safe. That experience became a touchstone
that helped him overcome his fears.
Experiential Activity
A touchstone is something - an experience,
object, picture, word, or remembrance - that reminds you of something else, particularly
what you want. Most of us naturally have touchstones. For instance, thinking of a
particular person might bring a warm, loving smile or remembering a funny story evokes a
chuckle and a lightness to the heart or a picture of your thin self to remind you to not
overeat. The value of a touchstone is that it serves to remind you of a particular state
of feeling and has the power to instantly transport you to that feeling. For instance, in
times of stress or fear, a touchstone can remind you that all is well. It can also serve
to help make sure that you don't lose sight of what's most important to you, so that you
don't end up compromising on your dreams and settling for far less than your potential.
During your search for and transition to your
dream career, the road could contain a few bumps, stones and pits, and a touchstone will
help you overcome the fearful feelings those obstacles may invoke. So before continuing on
with the rest of this article, take the time to create a touchstone experience to remind
you about what it feels like to be on track as you go forth creating your dream.
Pause & Ponder
Set aside some uninterrupted time to pause and
reflect upon all that you have discovered about yourself thus far. Review the summaries of
your Personal and Professional Profiles, and the talent descriptions you have just
written. Allow yourself to daydream, closing your eyes if you want to. Allow all that
information to float around in your mind and enjoy the vision of what you are creating for
yourself. As you watch this vision in your mind's eye, allow yourself to be inspired by
all your gifts, by all your talents and by the ways in which you will be expressing them
in your ideal career. Actually see yourself doing your dream career, picturing yourself as
if you were already doing your career in the present moment. Imagine yourself being
successful and fulfilled doing what you love. See yourself in your ideal working
environment, noticing the surroundings and how they make you feel. Imagine the positive
responses you are getting from the people you work for and with. See yourself expressing
your full potential and notice how good that feels. Just sit with this private vision for
a few minutes and savor how that feels.
By using your creative imagination and putting
your heart into this exercise, you will feel really connected to your dream career and
inspired by that vision. You can tell if what you are envisioning is your ideal career,
because your heart will be singing and you will be feeling excited by the vision. It feels
really "right" to you, turning you on, so to speak. That's the whole point of a
dream career. If you don't feel excited and inspired by the vision of your ideal career,
then we would suggest that you re-examine your responses in the previous exercises until
you come up with something that does excites you.
If you felt wonderful and inspired by your
vision, then use that vision and accompanying feeling as a touchstone experience to
faithfully remind you of your goal, especially as you begin to research different career
possibilities to turn that dream into a reality. For example, let's say that you're on a
job interview and by the way the interviewer describes the job and what's expected, you're
not feeling very inspired by what he says. The interviewer is not describing to you the
vision you had seen for yourself, and you don't feel excited by the interviewer's vision,
so, naturally, your heart is not going to be singing, "Yes, yes, yes." That is a
signal to you that this is not the job aligned with your vision of your dream career,
which will help you to successfully navigate the waters (the process of creating your
ideal career) until you have landed on dry land (actually doing what you love and making a
living at it).
Take the time to concretize the mental vision of
your dream career by writing a vision statement. There are no hard and fast rules for
writing this except that it is an accurate statement of what's in your heart and what you
really want to do. When you write this vision statement, let go of that little voice that
may be saying, "you can't do that" or "you're not good enough" or
"don't be silly, you can never achieve that" or any amount of other
self-defeating chatter that might be going on in your head.
The length is not important as long as it
includes all the components that are important to you and you feel inspired about what you
have written. Paint a picture in words of all that you imagine your ideal career to be,
describing your ideal working environment, projects you will be working on, the kinds of
people you will be associating with, the talents you will be expressing, the lifestyle you
will be living, how you will feel, etc. Later, as new information occurs to you, you can
always add to your vision statement.
For now, don't worry about how you are going to
make this career happen. Don't even worry that you might not yet be able to label your
career or profession. We'll get to that later. The important thing is that you are able to
identify some very important elements about your career and about yourself, which we have
been doing since the beginning of the theme. The important thing is that the types of
activities you will be involved in and the talents you will be using are becoming clearer
and clearer. The "how to make it all happen and pull it all together" part will
be revealed one step at a time as we continue our journey together throughout these
Inspired Career articles. So, for now, relax, be patient, acknowledge yourself and
appreciate all that you have learned about yourself and the clarity you have gained about
what you would most love doing in your ideal career.
Again, the reason for creating this vision
statement is to be a guide for you as you narrow down options in the future. This will
give you a point of comparison as you consider options and make decisions that will affect
your career. You will be able to look at all your options (after you have gathered the
information about each one) and ask yourself if it is a good match with your vision.)
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