Have you ever given much thought to how the lyrics of songs you listen
to affect you? Sure, we have favorite happy songs, sad songs, songs of
triumph, rebellion, worship, inspiration, romance, love of all kinds,
anger, loneliness, longing. Lost this, found that. But, have
you thought about how lyrics of your favorite songs might really be influencing
your moods, your outlooks, your self-concepts, even your very definition
of who you are?
I think we choose certain music to routinely listen to for any number
of reasons, and these reasons change for as many reasons as there are
instants in a day. A medical doctor friend of mine who is also
a musician once told me that music is the most powerful mood altering
substance known. From my personal life experiences, I would completely
agree.
We can alter moods almost instantly according to the music we listen
to.This past Sunday, I was enduring the heat by sitting with the fan
blowing on me while I was going through old file boxes of personal letters,
cards, etc. On the radio, my companion jazz station was playing the Sunday
afternoon Blues music show. I came across a bundle of letters and cards
relating to a former boyfriend from a long time ago. I started
reading and remembering. I felt my energy drop. I heard the radio playing
a very slow, pain-filled blues song about lost love. I paused a minute
and saw what I was doing to myself, wallowing in those old cards and
letters, dredging up memories about someone I couldnt care less
about today, hearing that sad, misery-filled music. I noticed my
dreary feelings, then I began to laugh as I got it!
First thing I did was switch the radio station to a station playing
something innocuous but upbeat; this was ok for now. Then, I just took
all those old letters and cards and put them in the recycling!
Recently, I was driving with a friend of mine to do a show, and on his
CD player was playing Eagles, Their Greatest Hits.
Now, I really like the Eagles. However, we had a Long drive,
and I got to listen carefully to every song and what it was saying. The
more I listened, the more my curiosity began to work on something; I
wasnt sure what had captured my attention. I listened especially
to Desperado, and Take it to the Limit, as well
as snatches of other lyrics. There was my friends definition of
Self! I asked him about this revelation of mine, and he agreed! This
is how he felt about himself; this was much of his definition of persona. I
thought more about this, and thought of one of my most favorite songs,
one by Jimmy Buffet whose lyrics state,
Ive got a schoolboy heart, and a novelists eye, south
sailor legs and a license to fly The music and lyrics make
me feel happy. Its tempo is easy upbeat rock and I feel a sense
of kindred spirit with Buffet. I identify with the
childlike heart, being a writer, my love of sailing and flying, and further
in the song is mention of having a rebellious nature. See what I mean?
All of these qualities are a very big part of how I see myself, (whether
truly accurate or not).
At one time, I was a staff member for a long-running highly-successful
workshop called Lifesong, whose premise was that we could
use a song we were deeply drawn to and through a series of processes
over 3 days, culminating in a performance night, we would experience
major breakthroughs regarding self-concept and surmounting the fears
that stop us from attaining our goals. It was subtle, yet enormously
effective.
How are you seeing yourself in the lyrics you are listening to? What
is this essence of who you are? If you listen to something reflecting
how you would like to be, how do you then feel?
Music, the most mind-altering of substances. Do not say No,
and use it well!